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Lisa Cunningham DeLauney's avatar

So much to think about, David. Maybe over a coffee. I love how you explore all the shades. No painting by numbers, here. Maybe procrastination is not the worst thing, but complacency is. Your visceral reaction to the Agile methodology made me laugh!

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David ☕'s avatar

Haha - Agile knows I am a non-believer - complacency is a terrible sand hill to rest on the problem is it is so comfortable - thanks for popping by 🤗

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Neela 🌶️'s avatar

Wait, 12% of women can see 100 million colors?! That's wild, David. No wonder I never missed a spot lol.

The Pratchett vs Leonardo thing is interesting because I've tried both. Sometimes I need the routine to trick my brain into starting. Other times I need to follow whatever weird tangent my mind wants to explore. Depends on the day, depends on my mood, depends on whether I've had enough coffee. And so after reading this, I'm thinking I had a pretty productive weekend after all. Happy New Week David.

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David ☕'s avatar

Hi Neela 🤗 am on my second coffee this morning and it is still freezing here - literally it was below zero this morning - still Helen and I summoned up the courage and walked to the local coffee shack - they have the best cakes in town and are only at the end of our street - maybe the sugar from the sticky lemon slice will give me the momentum to get going.

I’m not sure where you can tested for tetrachromacy as it is normally done by DNA testing - one artist who had it said she could see colours in greys - however, artists do tend to see colours where others don’t - I often see a myriad of colours in skin tones but am unlikely to have the super power due to being a mere male.

Personally I thought it fantastic to find something that women have an edge over and it totally explained why Helen should choose the decorations in the house.

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Neela 🌶️'s avatar

Is it freezing already?

Second coffee? That’s just the warm up round! I fully support sticky lemon slice as fuel for forward motion. Ryan bought a few slices from the local bakery over the weekend. As for tetrachromacy, it may be a superpower, but don’t count yourself out just yet. Spotting 47 shades of taupe in a paint aisle could still be in your future. Ironically, Ryan is the one who decorates. Does this surprise you?

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David ☕'s avatar

Well if Ryan decorates I suspect it is because you are a team player - my youngest son works in a paint department is always trying to help the hapless do it right first time… not sure how many shades of taupe he can define

Hooray for sticky lemon slice being a global thing!

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Neela 🌶️'s avatar

I am - I just let him do his thing lol

It is a beloved global thing.

Are you and Helen both recovered?

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David ☕'s avatar

Yes thanks - we are back to normal or the new normal or maybe even normalizing which is like caramelizing but not as sweet

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Neela 🌶️'s avatar

hah!

Glad you are both doing better.

I missed your videos for 3 weeks :(

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Tina Worthing's avatar

I love this piece, especially where procrastinating over one task that currently feels painful, leads to you doing other things you have been previously procrastinating over! Applying rules in life is generally contextual. Decision making in particular is a mine field of advice - which may or may not help depending on the situation! One size does not fit all. Beautiful picture of a fawn by the way.

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David ☕'s avatar

Thanks Tina - my decision making is often intuitive though the analyst in me disagrees

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Tina Worthing's avatar

My gut isn't always that reliable - so I need to take time to review so that I can respond in my own best interests.

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David ☕'s avatar

Generally when I ignore my gut instinct I regret picking my brain’s decision - and those times are normally monetary losses - odd how my gut is financially more prudent than my mind which gets caught up thinking about branding, status and other such nonsense that are part of a marketer’s chemical warfare

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Tina Worthing's avatar

Interesting - your gut sounds much cleverer than mine!

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Hans Jorgensen's avatar

This is wonderful, David! A couple observations from Minnesota. First, it is awesome to push beyond the binary, and notice how many nuanced colors there are. Yes!

Second, it's great to see how different artists approach their craft creatively, and how Da Vinci and Pratchett found what worked for them beyond fight/flight/freeze/fawn.

Third, the poetry Jane Hirshfield suggests an antidote to fight/flight is tend/befriend. If we can slow down enough to tend the nervous system and befriend ourselves in the moment, we can proceed with better clarity.

Does any of this help in conversation with your essay?

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David ☕'s avatar

That’s a lovely thought from Jane Hans, I sometimes wonder if I am Fawning with myself - trying to come up with soft reasons to avoid the pain of action - it sounds better when i think I am befriending myself - thanks for adding that

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Chason Forehand's avatar

You give us a good bit to chew on here, David. Thank you for the stimulating ride. To the question posed, I'm a fighter by course, but have learned over the years to choose my battles carefully, and decide when to step in.

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David ☕'s avatar

Sun Tzu would agree Chason, and even when he did battle he made sure he picked the most conducive ground to winning… I suppose he built context into his fight. I must admit when younger I was quick to draw my sword and felt offense was a good defense - these days I walk away… life is too short and winning is not always a good long term strategy.

Thanks for joining in 🤗🍪

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Cecilia At The Kitchens Garden's avatar

Great writers initiate great conversations and you do not disappoint.

I have always thought that people see colour differently and also the way they hear words depends on their own understanding of the meanings of the words, much of how we react to the world depends on our own experiences.

Your lounge of comments will rock today. I am going to drop back in.

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David ☕'s avatar

Ah… I agree on the words as well Cecilia - we attach emotion and beliefs to different words and translating them from others is not as simple as knowing the language.

I always knew my wife saw colours differently to me - so I normally defer to her view unless it is my own art which is an expression of how I see the world

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Cecilia At The Kitchens Garden's avatar

So if an artist with the ability to see more colours, paints a picture using her extra diverse pallette then only the people with the extra ability to see colours would be able to see the extra colour she paints in her painting, right?

Did that make sense?

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David ☕'s avatar

You’d think so - however, each artist still has access to the same paints - what happens to those who see more colours is that their paintings are more dynamic - I suspect it depends on the skill of the artist as well but their shading is likely wonderful on skin tones

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Cecilia At The Kitchens Garden's avatar

Yes. It becomes more of an existential question as we think about it.

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Nadine's avatar

A shame we're unlikely to know if Morisot had tetrachromacy. I have simply been calling my partner colour ignorant but what if he's actually colour blind? 🤔 My uncle can only see blue, and my grandpa could never differentiate red and green, goodness knows how he drove for so long...

And the SNS should the topic of discussion more often especially in criminal cases, because I think we all need more awareness of how big a range of reactions there are two panic fear, or danger. Many people tend to ask why didn't you fight? Why didn't you leave? Why didn't you say something...

I suppose there was so many things we generally need more education in that me whining about it on social media isn't going to help, but if any government official happens to read this.. let's start with a classe or two on taxes at secondary? 🫡

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David ☕'s avatar

That’s quite a reply that covers areas I hadn’t considered - what if the SNS automatically took over and the person couldn’t rationally choose what to do? I don’t know Nadine… our justice system is anything but justice… yet its all we have…

I was surprised to learn that genetically men are more likely to be colour blind - just as well traffic lights seem to have a universal design of where the red and green go!!!

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Nadine's avatar

We rarely decide things rationally, I believe. I think some scientists believe the same too!

Lucky on the traffic lights yes, but at night?! He was driving well into his 80s and I'd argue, should not have been 😂

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